I completed with my children the computer game Starcraft 2. We encountered the following touching scene: Sarah Kerrigan (one of the rare persons in literature that I can identify with) saves her beloved Jim Raynor. In order to accomplish this, she must make a transition to a human-zerg hybrid (zergs are insect-like aliens). It is quite certain that Kerrigan does not wish to hear as the first words after a long time ”what have you done?”. Better would be ”nice to see you” or of course the utopistic words ”you look good in zerg”. Assuming that love prevails and overcomes everything.
In my opinion Raynor is quite a jerk in the conversation. Kerrigan would have needed support, compassion and love – even an indifferent reaction would have counted as a ”positive”.
Of course trans-species transition could be quite a shock, but actually it is regrettably too good a simulation of responses to human transgender transitions. Starcraft has a happy ending, but it is too conventional and cheesy: after saving the universe, Kerrigan will be a human again and she and Raynor will together ride (a starship) to the sunset (of another sun).
In reality, it is too much to expect that a transgender person would reverse the transition in order to be accepted as a loved family member or companion. Too often it is hoped ”as a compromise”. And the transgender person will hope that love will overcome everything or prevail, that (s)he will be accepted and even loved as the true her/himself. Though, of course, it is also impossible to turn a homosexual straight or vice versa, which may create obstacles to marital life and corresponding activities.
In some brutal aspects I am not a big fan of reality (though as a scientist I have studied the fundamental nature of quantum reality), and somehow I like happy endings. Even though I cannot write unreal happy endings in my novels, I would like them to have such, and the first two parts of my detective series with a transwoman as the protagonist might be counted as such. But I am afraid that realism and ”professional scepticism” (that is a required quality of an accredited auditor, some could call it cynicism) will result in my series part by part becoming more and more of nordic noir.
I feel you, Kerrigan!